Crazy girlfriend

[Revenant]

We got aquainted at the universuty. In some time I started to feel something unknown when I saw her. In some more time I told her about my feelengs. I couldn't take it any more. She was very pleased to hear that. I was so happy when we started dating, but then...
I recognised I've never seen so much philosophy in one teenager. She is so hard to understand... Besides,despite my feelings, she doesn't belive in love at all!
There is so much unknown in our relationships...
Crazyness...But I still love her.

How would you call this kind of situation?
And what would you do on my place?

[Miss Lockheart]

Hmmm don't worry I don't understand girls either!

It seems you spend a lot fo time talking, I think she must like that, she obviously needs someone to listen to her. And you have landed that role, which means regardless of whether it is love or not, she finds a really great friend in you.

I'm not sure what that means when she says she doesn't believe in love. Are her feelings only based on this bond you two have (like just good friends), or is she using this apparent disbelief as a shield against hurt? If she is, then she may never admit it, but it's good to know where she really stands with you.

How much have you talked to her about your own feelings? Does she know that saying she doesn't believe in love hurts you, as it seems it does? You need to find out what's really going on and what she really thinks about you, because otherwise things may go down a bad road and both of you could get hurt. Get things out in the open. Or at least try, because she sounds very cryptic and contrary to me and nobody deserves to be treated that way.

I hope this helps!

[JET73L]

Try to see things from her point of view (mentally/philosopically. I don't mean specifically like an argument). You could even discuss this sort of thing with her, Miss Valentine seems correct in how, whether she thinks she loves you or not, being as deep friends as you seem, even/especially with the dating, that it may be a near-perfect fit. Just because someone doesn't believe in something, doesn't mean they don't feel it in their own way. If she accepts how you (think you) feel, it may be okay, but if she merely disregards your belief in love, it may suggest deeper problems and the refusal of accomodation (if this is the situation) would just be an outer representation of a more important disagreement, that you may or may not have noticed and probably have not discussed.
Either way, if it's cool, just surf it out, and don't try to duck out halfway through a killer wave. You would probably end up falling from one side, or getting hit by the whole wall of water.

PS: if I don;t make sense, disregard whatever I've said. I can be overly cryptic on accident. And even if it does make sense, I may not be the best to take advice from, considering. That was just my suggestions.

[Revenant]

Thanks. I realy dont want to ask her direct quastions cause I'm afraid to be hurt. Nowadays we meet rarely (exams and so on...) so we don't have much time to talk. But there is something of what you have told me that I want to discuss with her.
I always try to be patient with her, despite she can hurt me much.

[Miss Lockheart]

Patience is good of course, as long as it is not at the expense of your feelings. It may sound hard when you feel you really love someone, but you should try and think of yourself a little, how you are affected by the situation. I know it will be hard if you are direct and she says things you don't want to hear, but I think the truth would be a relief to you even if it does hurt.

[Revenant]

Sometimes I think I'm just running away from big problems with her. I don't want to change anything right now. I know: My fate will lead me to the right decidion when the time comes.
But I'm glad you understand me =)