Beating your Kids - Final Fantasy Net

bond of flames 2.0 · #1 09-05-2006, 12:30 AM

What are your beliefs/view/opinions on parents beating their kids...Me if the kid is bad enough and what they did is like...Shooting windows out with a bb gun then they deserve a good beating...anythoughts

XII · #2 09-05-2006, 12:33 AM

Umm that's like saying if you shot a window out youre all for your dad beating you......might want to rethink that.

The Graceful Assassin · #3 09-05-2006, 01:01 AM

But because of those beliefs he probably would not do that in the first place unless he enjoys pain, correct?

There is some points where words are not enough and it must become physical in order to set things straight. That would be rarely necessary though. I'm not pro child abuse, on the contrary, but sometimes a good slap needs to be done.

Say a child wants some candy and they kick and scream in front of a whole store. Yelling and warning does nothing. But just a light hit can get some sense into them. And yet people exaggerate. You lay your finger on a kid ever so much and you're labelled a child abuser. It's just when the parent goes too far to the point where they emotionally/physically/mentally scar the child, which can be seen from different perspectives. There definitely is too much abuse in the world with kids now, I'm not denying that.

new_KEYBLADE9 · #4 09-05-2006, 01:16 AM

I belive that a spank or slap is in order if the child doesn't get it through their head that what they are doing s wrong. My little sister got a slap, not too bad though, after throwing a tantrum.

But I have seen child abuse personally. I was at my friend's house, when my friend talked to his mom. I heard arguing, then he went back into the room. He kept arguing with her, until she got so mad that she took the baby's mini-car and threw it at him. It must have hurt alot since my frined began to cry. His mom just said that he was asking for it, and he took him up to his room.

It's hard to describe what it felt like to me....the best I could describe it was sickening. Child abuse is definetly a problem, and could get out of hand.

The Graceful Assassin · #5 09-05-2006, 01:46 AM

Amazing... something you and I agree on

..... the apocalypse will be arriving soon lol

HantsHammer · #6 09-05-2006, 12:54 PM

Again, it's a fine line.

A little slap now and again as an incentive not to do something is fine in my book however, some parents use it as an easy means to not have to actualy set any ground rules, suplimenting the smack rather than a solid set of boundries. If the kid sees that the adult hitting is deemed as an okay acitvity then the child becomes violent itself.

But then you have these new laws meant to prevent this kind of stuff. The laws meant to stop people abusing their children. Look at it this way if someone was beating the snot out of their kids on a regular basis a half way measure law is not going to stop them. All it will do is land parents whom, in a brief moment of lapse, give the child a quick slap in all sorts of trouble.

Think about it this way, what is more likely to scar a child. Daddy catching his arm by accident when he is running round like an idiot or the strain put on Daddies marrage when Daddy has to go and serve 15 hours comunity support and be put on the child abuse register...

VITG · #7 09-05-2006, 02:55 PM

This is a subject that bothers me....a lot. The government doesn't have the right to tell you how to raise your family. If you believe that corporal punishment is the right course of action (which it is, I'm sorry but my parents and their parents were beaten if they did wrong, and they turned out fine.) then you're within your own rights to discipline your child. If you go too far, there are plenty of child abuse charities your child can phone to turn your abusive ass in :P
Hell, I can't wait to have kids just so I can bound home from work to give them a slap....<_<

Snaggle_Tongue · #8 09-05-2006, 04:16 PM

I've got to agree with Hants on this one. I've suffered child abuse and it's OT right.
But that wasn't really because I'd done anything wrong so much as to warn me against it in the future. How cool is that?

So yeah. A small slap/spank to tell them not to do something again once they've crossed the rules, is, IMHO, okay. But becating a child because they crossed a line once is NOT. Especially if they didn't know that rule was there. And extremely especially if it's because "They were going to be naughty. I could feel it."

The Graceful Assassin · #9 09-05-2006, 04:53 PM

XD I know this is supposed to be serious but that last comment you made snaggle made me think:

*standing in grocery store*
Mother: *punches child randomly in line*
Man: What the hell was that for????
Mother: He was going to be naughty...... I could feeeeel it <_< >_>

DragoonKain · #10 09-05-2006, 05:05 PM

Straight out of the words of a psychology textbook:

Physical force should be used on a child if the behavior in question could be LIFE THREATENING.

If you are teaching a child not to cross the street without looking, you'd better slap the kid across the head. Reason? It's behavior that you want to display once and ONLY once.

As for whether or not spanking as a form of punishment is okay or not... studies are relatively inconclusive. Here in the South, it is deemed more okay than it is in other parts of the US. I'll say this, if I find out my child was shoplifting, or etc etc... you bet your sweet aunt betty that kid'll get a slap upside his head.