The Owl's Nest-The Nocturnal Imperative

[bond of flames 2.0]

Yeah..Maine but its not very exciting the seasons suck and there are hardly any good concerts in maine.

Me, I believe i'm here for a few things. To escape reality and feelings of pain and any horible emotions, and to be in a place where no one judges you based on religion race, etc...But as stated most of the members are from Europe which basically means were all white here but still no one judges people here just people outside of here.
It's amazing that videogames have the powers that they do. The power of unity through the world, (and a spike in obesity of kids) but it also provides an escape for people as well and i'm not talking just kids either, adults too. For the longest time I was a weird kid that no body really liked but talked to just because I was at school and in the same class. I had video games for my friends, they were my escape from judgement just as this place is now. My step-dad uses videogames to relax and escape the bull that he deals with at work. And because of videogames my step-dad and my relationship has become much closer than that of my relationship with my bio-dad. My dad's a mechanic and I definately am not mechanically inclined at any level. But my step-dad is a videogame nerd through and through and he can play a game that i'm not playing but i'll have a large understanding of whats going on from watching and he usually asks me for advice on whats going on.
This place in escape, there is no judgment and there is always someone who is understanding about stuff even if they are kind arrogant. *cough* VITG *cough* lol. But there is always someone here that you can connect with on a level that is close like best friends even if we are millions of miles away. And even with the diversity of types of people here we get along probably better than if we tried to get the jocks at school to like the goth kids. I may not be here a lot anymore but this place is my home away from home were there is always a good conversation to get in on no matter if its about politics, religion, dreams etc... It is just as you put it Terminal...Peaceful.

[Zotar]

Originally Posted by bond of flames 2.0

Yeah..Maine but its not very exciting the seasons suck and there are hardly any good concerts in maine.

Me, I believe i'm here for a few things. To escape reality and feelings of pain and any horible emotions, and to be in a place where no one judges you based on religion race, etc...But as stated most of the members are from Europe which basically means were all white here but still no one judges people here just people outside of here.
It's amazing that videogames have the powers that they do. The power of unity through the world, (and a spike in obesity of kids) but it also provides an escape for people as well and i'm not talking just kids either, adults too. For the longest time I was a weird kid that no body really liked but talked to just because I was at school and in the same class. I had video games for my friends, they were my escape from judgement just as this place is now. My step-dad uses videogames to relax and escape the bull that he deals with at work. And because of videogames my step-dad and my relationship has become much closer than that of my relationship with my bio-dad. My dad's a mechanic and I definately am not mechanically inclined at any level. But my step-dad is a videogame nerd through and through and he can play a game that i'm not playing but i'll have a large understanding of whats going on from watching and he usually asks me for advice on whats going on.
This place in escape, there is no judgment and there is always someone who is understanding about stuff even if they are kind arrogant. *cough* VITG *cough* lol. But there is always someone here that you can connect with on a level that is close like best friends even if we are millions of miles away. And even with the diversity of types of people here we get along probably better than if we tried to get the jocks at school to like the goth kids. I may not be here a lot anymore but this place is my home away from home were there is always a good conversation to get in on no matter if its about politics, religion, dreams etc... It is just as you put it Terminal...Peaceful.

Here! Here!

I like this place for many reasons... especially becuase its small and you get to know the member well.

[bond of flames 2.0]

Guys...I need some advice...and guess about wat...thats right girl problems. My girlfriend, i love her right to death, but with everything that is been happening lately i just want to kill stuff. She is stuck in her past and i mean stuck. She is always saying how great it was dating her ex for two years, and is also reverting back to her old self and that would be an alchy partying drug head...And all of which she promised me she wouldn't do...I guess im in denial or something cuz i try to act like it doesn't hurt but it kills me on the inside. I just wish she would start living in the present with me and forget about the past..but that'll never happen. Damn you think this would be an easy decision....but for me nothing's easy anymore.

[The_True_Keyblader]

Couldn't tell ya bro, hard decision, but you'll do what you gotta do and I know you will

[Zotar]

Woah! True Keyblader! it is an honor.

To Bond: I know how you feel. My girlfriend always talks about how terrible it is for her at home what with her dad being a drug addict and all. She even told me that her mother tryed to kill her as a baby. All I could do was be compassionate and listen. I never told her how great my family was for me. I didn't want to make her feel bad. All i could do was be there for her. Thats all i really needed to do. But i can't say if it was the right thing. Bond just be there for her. Be a shoulder to cry on, Be a rock to hold her up, be someone who cares. That is all i can say.

[Miss Lockheart]

I agree with what Zotar says to an extent, there may be a chance that she'll realize what a great guy she has here in the present and come around. But if she doesn't, or if her behaviour gets worse, then you will have to confront her. It's not easy by any stretch of the imagination, and you are already hurting enough, but even guys have got to stand up for themselves sometimes. It's not clear why she's behaving like this and clinging on to the past, since it obviously wasn't good for her.

You have to try and think about why she's acting this way. If it's because she's really depressed or having trouble coping, then of course being there for her would help. But if she's just being selfish and acting up, which sometimes happens, then you can't hurt yourself by just sitting back and taking it. It's too much of a burden for you, regardless of how much you love a person, sometimes it can just be too much. you have to think of yourself sometimes, as selfish as that sounds, it's really not down to you if your girl spirals out of control. But make it very clear that this is upsetting you and that you won't take any more, either something has to change or you'll have to get tough. It's brutal, I know, but sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind to someone, she can't just walk all over you no matter how down and depressed she is.

Try and catch her when she's most sober and when you think there's a good chance she might listen. Then just tell her your feelings. Although don't make it sound as if she's at fault, even though she is, just put your concerns about what she's doing to herself and say you want to help her. If she continues even after you've tried that, then think really hard about whether you want to carry on the relationship.

Good luck with it whatever you decide to do, I hope things get better soon

[Revenant]

Wow! Hay guys! Maby golden age isn't so dead after all?

[Zotar]

To Revenant: No, This is the New Golden Age.

To no-one in particular: There should be a survay, "How Much Guys know about Gals."

[Miss Lockheart]

Hmmm I concurr actually, and the other way round aswell, as I think neither sex understands each other very well

[bond of flames 2.0]

True that and thanks guys my folks tried helping but all mom could do was make me cried. And the only reason her past is bad is because she chose to make it that way and i am there for her but i was told by my dad that i shouldn't put myself to close to her and wear my heart on my sleeve and look out for how she is making me feel. And sadly i'm starting to fear more things. Her ex of two years still loves her and if i remember right she said they only "broke up" because she can't deal with long distance relationships...*he signed up for the navy and went to Virginia.* And i fear that when he comes home, that i'm gonna lose her, but i'm starting to feel that i was just a back up until he did come home. The dude bought and tricked out a car for her, every holiday he sends her a gift. For valentines he bought her Fire and Ice roses...HOW do i compete with that..I'm broke. She says i don't have to get her anything and that being with me is enough for her but i'm not sure. Damnit i just don't know wat to do, i want to put her in her place and confront her but everytime i bring up the fact that i think she still has feelings for him she gets pissed at me and i think its because i'm right and she's being defensive.
And you might be looking at this like dude she's playing with your heart and feelings and stuff but i'm also a supremely jealous person and a pesimist so all i can think is her doing stuff like this....Its just so damn hard and i know everything happens for a reason and if were meant to happen we'll make it through this but i think if we were truly to be together it would've happend in eighth grade and none of this would be happening now*as far as i know* but it didn't...so everything happend and i have her now but...i'm sick of all this $#!T all the stress. i think i honestly skipped school on valentines day because i didn't want to have to make any choices today...that would just suck.